Some people are just negative. Full stop. The glass will NEVER be half full. Heck, even when the glass is over-flowing it’s just a waste.
I really struggle with these people. But I am a strange sadistic person who likes to make my own life difficult, so I try to help them look on the positive side. And then get more and more disgruntled when I slowly realise I am banging my head against a brick wall.
Everyone has down times. Nobody (despite what their social media timelines tell you) is happy and positive 100% of the time. As the Disney movie explained, you have to have sadness to experience joy. And I’m not hating on anyone with depression. Nor am I complaining when people want to talk about their problems, nooonoooooonoooooo. That’s not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about the person who perpetually sees the bad side of EVERYTHING. The person who helps point out the negatives in your own life. The person who will consistently moan about the same bloody thing, but not do a single.fucking.thing. to change it.
How can you help a person like this? You can’t. Well, I can’t anyway.
You have to just accept them the way they are and let them carry on with their negativity and not let them pull you into their perpetual misery.
Or you ditch them.
Ahem. I have to do the latter, because I get too stressed out on their behalf, and I get incredibly frustrated because I can’t help, and I feel like I’m living Groundhog Day when I spend time with them.
Except it’s a bit tricky when it’s family. You can’t really ‘ditch’ family; not when there’s kids involved, otherwise I’d probably try. It’s incredibly difficult not to rise to negative comments about yourself, your home, your relationship, to get nothing but negativity thrown at you. It’s demoralising and hurtful. And from someone who you should really want to spend time with.
I can’t deal with their negativity. I don’t want to deal with it. But I can’t apply my usual formula, so I feel a bit stumped.
I’m sure I’m not the only one. Other people are bound to have had to suffer negativity from loved ones. It’s a bitch. And it is really getting me down, especially because I know it can’t be dealt with, this really is something I have just got to tolerate.
As Jack Bauer would say ‘Goddammit’.